“The Value of Quiet Husbands” – There has been a lot of talk, both in secular and Christian media, about extroversion and introversion. Since I’ve recently posted several articles on the subject (and really enjoyed the book, Quiet), I thought this would be helpful to save, as well. Wendy Alsup takes on the value of quiet husbands in her insightful, written-with-the-voice-of-experience article.
“I have sometimes felt on the outside looking in when I read Christian books or listen to sermon series on marriage. They often talk of godly masculine leadership with imagery that leaves me thinking that all godly husbands will be out front publicly leading their family. Of course, these sermons are usually given by men who are comfortable standing in front of hundreds or thousands of people at a time. No wonder most of their illustrations reflect men out front in public settings.”
“It’s too bad that the larger evangelical movement seems to value loud, upfront leadership as a more masculine trait. I’m concerned that the result is that strong women who want a godly husband may not recognize the power and wisdom of the quiet guy observing the group from the sidelines. We mistakenly think he is not a player, not recognizing the God-given qualities that make him, not a player, but the more dignified role of a coach or referee. In a world of noise and a church of noise, it is good to value quiet men (and women) who observe well before they speak, and speak few words when they are ready to contribute. The church is wise to listen to their input.”
“Adoption: on earth as it is in heaven?” – My online friend Shanna has done a good deal of research and thinking about what has recently become the trend of “missional adoption.” She recently posted a link to this article by Claudia (a mother who has two adopted children), which addresses some of the ways it seems like the American Evangelical Church has over-spiritualized earthly adoption to be something that it isn’t.
“1) When God adopted me, he adopted someone who is totally unlike himself.
Personally, I think this is the biggest difference between my adoption by God and my adoption of children. I am able to adopt children because I am in comfortable circumstances, and they need adoption because of profoundly uncomfortable circumstances, but there is absolutely no difference between us, really. I am richer, and older, but that’s it. If the world had been ordered differently, the adoption could easily have been the other way around. But for me and God? There are huge differences between me and God, and these are in our fundamental, essential natures. Him: creator, sustainer, redeemer of the Universer, totally holy and totally righteous. Me: a frail human sinner, totally unworthy to be in his presence. But rather than rejecting me, he makes me part of his family. He makes me part of his family. Once we understand who God is, and who we really are, this is staggering. It should amaze us.Not so, my adoption of little people. Two big sinners adopting two little sinners, and we become a human family. Wonderful, joyful, but not unnatural. Not staggering.
We should not forget this difference. It affects how we think about the worth of our children.
2) When God adopted me, my adoption was a totally good thing.”